DiscoverThe Midlife Chrysalis​​Why Dating Feels Hard in Midlife (Even for Smart People) | Rachel Greenwald
​​Why Dating Feels Hard in Midlife (Even for Smart People) | Rachel Greenwald

​​Why Dating Feels Hard in Midlife (Even for Smart People) | Rachel Greenwald

Update: 2025-12-19
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Dating in midlife can feel strangely hard, even when you’ve done the work, built a full life, and know yourself better than ever. If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this still so complicated?” this episode is for you.

In this conversation, I sit down with Rachel Greenwald, Harvard MBA and veteran matchmaker who has helped guide nearly 1,000 marriages. With warmth, humor, and deep insight, Rachel reframes dating not as luck but as a learnable skill, especially in midlife.


Together, we explore:


- Why the people who make us happiest don’t always match our dating checklists

- How chemistry can fool us and what actually leads to lasting connection

- The quiet dating rules that keep smart people single

- Why love often shows up in unexpected packages

- How modern couples are redefining partnership, including living apart together


This is a hopeful, practical conversation about dating with wisdom, curiosity, and openness, not fear or frustration.

👉 Listen or watch now and discover why midlife may be your most meaningful, and romantic, chapter yet.


Timestamps:

00:46 Meet matchmaker Rachel Greenwald

03:36 From Harvard MBA to professional matchmaker

04:03 A midlife pivot that changed everything

07:29 The highs and lows of matchmaking

09:44 What is keeping people single

10:20 The most powerful question in dating

13:11 Chemistry vs compatibility & happiness

17:11 Why we repeat unfinished relationship patterns

19:46 Why dating checklists can backfire

22:39 Why men make up most matchmaking clients

25:08 Why parents hire matchmakers for young adults

28:03 Why midlife dating isn’t hopeless

35:57 The three must-haves that really matter

38:26 Living apart together and modern relationships

44:51 Inside the Santa Fe dating workshop

48:27 Wisdom bumper sticker

53:11 Final takeaways on love and dating in midlife


Learn more about MEA at ⁠https://www.meawisdom.com/


#MidlifeDating #DatingAfter40 #DatingAfter50 #MidlifeRelationships #FindingLoveLaterInLife #DatingAdvice #ModernDating #RelationshipAdvice #DatingWisdom #MidlifeWomen #MidlifeMen #Matchmaking #LoveAfterDivorce #DatingOver40 #MidlifeChrysalis

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​​Why Dating Feels Hard in Midlife (Even for Smart People) | Rachel Greenwald

​​Why Dating Feels Hard in Midlife (Even for Smart People) | Rachel Greenwald

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